A friend of mine broke up recently with his long time partner,
they've been together for more than two years and some months,he came to
me asking for advice (as if I'm some kind of Love Guru or whatever) and
yeah I'm talking about you man.
Everyone have
had a broken heart once in their lives and we cope with them in our own
way, Do you want to know how to mend a broken heart quickly? Your out of
luck man there is never an instant process, it takes time. But the good
news is there are things that you can do to speed up the process.
We'll
the usual me would say that you should go out, sleep with some girls
(never more than one time with the same girl), drink some booze and
before you know it you've moved on.
But I feel
for you man I've been there, I know its not easy so forget boozing and
sleeping with different women It might help take the pain away for a
moment but it wont help you move on (been there done that) you might
forget about him/her for the time being but when your alone in your room
that's when you start feeling the pain eating you from the inside, read
on...
If you invested a lot of emotion and
effort into your relationship and then it ends, you could feel sad about
the break up for years. And if you do not learn how to mend a broken
heart properly, maybe for the rest of your life. But this does not mean,
the sadness should interrupt your life, making you feel paralyzed and
depressed.
For starters, you need to avoid your
ex at all costs stop seeing or contacting them for it will only cause
you more pain. If you find yourself thinking about them, try think of
all the irritating and nasty things they did in the relationship. If
your ex really loved and respected you, they would not have done those
things. So focusing on them is a great way of learning how to fix a
broken heart and focusing on the pro’s of being single again.
Once
you see the benefits of the break up, use them to plan for the future.
Think of how the relationship made you stronger, better and the things
that you can do now that your single, think of the possibilities my
friend. Thinking ahead will stop you dwelling on the past – a dangerous
road that many people take after a break up, as it stops you from
mending a broken heart and moving on.
If
the break up happened recently, the only way to deal with it is to feel
every emotion and face the pain. Yes, it will hurt, no matter what you
try do. But there are things you can do to dampen the pain.
You
can put away any obvious visual reminders, such as photographs and
gifts. And even avoid places that remind you of your ex. Start
distracting yourself by doing things that you enjoy doing, keep yourself
busy.
Hanging out with friends is a great way
to distract you. It also gives you a chance to share your feelings, so
you can better understand the situation and move on.
Once
you've got your confidence back, then you can start dating again. You
might compare the girl with your ex a few times but its part of the
process, just give it some time, there are many fish in the sea.
BY : WORLDSOCOLD
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